Most Online Daters Seek Partner Better Looking Than Themselves

Dating apps might make people super optimistic.

August 10, 2018



So I never had to do the online dating app thingy but in real life, I think I may have over shot every now and then when I considered a companion that was way better looking than myself. Well, a new study has found, most people on these dating apps look for people that are far better looking than themselves. Sure, why not right?

Researchers from the University of Michigan used a computer algorithm to identify which users of a dating app got the most messages– those people were considered most attractive. Using the same technology they figured out where all other users ranked in terms of attractiveness.

They found 21% of people who messaged those who were prettier than themselves got at least one reply, and that 25% overall were seeking potential dates who were more attractive than themselves.

Study co-author Professor Elizabeth Bruch adds, “There can be a lot of difference in terms of who is desirable to whom. Our scores reflect the overall desirability rankings given online dating site users’ diverse preferences. There may be sub-markets in which people who would not necessarily score as high by our measures could still have an awesome and fulfilling dating life.”  Hmm.

I'm not sure I got all that technical jargon junk explanation. All I know is the old adage still remains true, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and there are so many other factors that come into play when you're searching for someone to fill that companion role. Don't let an "algorithm" stop you from skipping out on a great person because they didn't check off on every box.

But what do I know I've only been married for over 25 years. ~grace

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